Here’s the thing about the ball-busting that guys do to each other in groups or elsewhere: while a little razzing is fun, the constant and escalating stuff causes people to armor-up and pull back and isolate large parts of who you are. It stops men from bringing their best self to an interaction or relationship. Ironically this is counter to the bigger, stronger, faster mindset. It’s so damaging and unproductive. It’s fodder to fill the air for people who are fearful of talking about “real stuff.” It’s hard to watch and be around. It’s very anti-men if you think about it.